Friday, October 31, 2008
Relax Mom, Let Your Kid Be a Kid!
While driving home from a counseling session and lunch with some girl friends, I was enjoying the fall scenery and listening to the radio all alone, at the volume I wanted! When you have two daughters with sensory disorders, especially auditory processing, most of the time, the van needs to be a quiet place, free from audio stimulation, much to my own chagrin.
Feeling free and alive, my thoughts took me back to a scene from Finding Nemo.
Remember Marlin, the scared yet determined Daddy to Nemo when he is talking to the Daddy Sea Turtle, Crush? In a panic, wide-eyed and frazzled, as he is in almost every scene, he is worried for Crush's son, Squirt who just fell out of the current into an ocean abyss. Here is how the conversation goes:
MARLIN: [gasps] Oh my goodness!
CRUSH: Whoa. Kill the motor, dude. Let us see what Squirt does flying solo.
SQUIRT: Whoa! Whoa! That was so cool! Hey dad, did you see that? Did you see me? Did you see what I did?
CRUSH: You so totally rock, Squirt! So give me some fin..noggin..
This picture paints the perfect model of my current parenting world. I am Marlin, neurotic, not able to fit in and meeting only friends that aren't quite my type like Dory or the sharks. My daughter, is little Nemo, cute and spunky, with a "Lucky Fin," (a/k/a Autism and ADHD and Mood Disorders) who despite her circumstances is making friends and growing up.
It was like God was speaking to me today on my drive home. He was saying, "Kill the motor."
Remember Nemo's first day of school for Marlin? I still want my little Nemo to go and play in the toddler bouncy area - not travel with the sting ray teacher to the drop off!!! What if she can't swim like the other kids? What if she needs a sensory break?
God is telling me, "Let's see what she does on her own..."
And, so, I will. At least I will try. Good idea God. Thanks for meeting me today and speaking in my language! You rock!